It’s the most wonderful time of the year. Is It?
If you’re searching and found solace during the holiday season, likely, you don’t agree with the sentiments above. It’s been hard for you to find yourself in the cheerful, joyous holiday mood, while everyone around you “seems” to be enjoying the events of the season.
Grief is not easy to deal with at any point of the year, yet it is heart-wrenching during the holidays. Missing loved ones or experiencing loss causes tremendous heartache. The holidays can bring sensitivity to memories one would rather not think about. Some memories are beautiful but can certainly be painful.
The pain of losing someone or something, especially if it is unanticipated and/or tragic, can be extremely difficult to navigate, leaving you lost and unprepared. Losses considered to be expected take on a different level of grieving, which can feel more manageable. Intense grief can sometimes feel like an out-of-body experience.
Do you ever find yourself staring into the abyss when trying to make sense of why the loss occurred or how to move on from it? A “dark hole” or a “hole in your heart,” an emptiness is often how grief is described. A loss can leave a massive imprint on a person’s heart, a void, a sense of being out of control, and the inability to move forward in their life.
Some advice is not helpful.
I’m sure you’ve been told continuously by others, “Just give it time,” “Time heals all things,” but to you, it feels like this is far from the truth, and these people have no idea what you feel.
Perhaps you are just in the denial or angry phase; it will pass. This is true to an extent; however, grief has to be felt, or it will linger longer than you’d desire.
Grieving is not easy, but it is natural.
Some may say, “I know how you feel.” The truth is that no one knows exactly how you feel. Perhaps they can relate to some similarities, but the feelings are uniquely your own. Traumatic losses are very sensitive for the grieving individual.
Reality to someone grieving may involve seeking clarity and understanding. They could be holding space where grief should be; needing to make sense of the death of their spouse or child, the loss of a parent before they feel ready to navigate the world without them, a miscarriage or a stillbirth (multiple occurrences), or even a loved one who has died by suicide.
The death of a loved one leaves a physical void in a human. Others may be experiencing a different loss, such as their identity, their future, or meaningful belongings lost through a natural disaster or theft. Loss can be significant, deep, and traumatic, making responses to it unequivocally diverse.
Therapy can help you learn coping skills that will give you peace, calm your daily anxiety, teach you to experience your emotions without them consuming you, and help you move forward in your life through healing.
The Serene Journey helps with grief.
Grief leaves you vulnerable, questioning everything. I’ve heard people say, “How is therapy going to help me? It can’t bring my loved one back. What does a stranger know about how I’m feeling?” These are all fair statements. And honestly, trusting the process is so much more difficult when you are not ready to release and try. Submitting to any process is key to growth.
I’ve trained in many areas of grief work to walk alongside my clients during their journey. It is indeed a journey; it is not a rushed practice. Time and attention are paramount to allowing an individual the measure needed to grieve at their own pace.
The Serene Journey is a therapeutic experience designed to help you reach the ultimate goal, healing. It allows you to face grief head-on and will empower you instead of continuing to debilitate your existence. It offers a safe, sincere place to grieve deeply. During Serene sessions, my goal is to instill courage, offer glimpses of hope, and bring peace as I strive to motivate you to press on toward positive changes in your lives.
Trusting the process while seeking peace will benefit all areas of your life. Choosing to work through grieving a loss is choosing to live, to embrace life, and ensure your quality of life is sustainable and enjoyable.
Joy will come in the morning.
Within our therapeutic process, you’ll find it to be seamless and unintimidating. Have faith in the process. You are worth fighting for. There is so much more to you than an experience that tried to grip you.
Although our work will be done via telehealth, you will find warmth and comfort from my expressions, attentiveness to your struggles, and a kind, familiar spirit behind my voice. Much of the work I do is guided by my Faith experience and Christ-Centered approach to research-based methodology.
Together, we can discover who you really want to become. Your mental wellness is important, and I’m here to help. Fill out the Contact Serene form.
Peace will soon follow.
